List (to be continued at the next moon)

When others profess in knowledge that you do not know, try to suppress the feeling of resentment.

When others make a critical remark, try to suppress that weak laugh resembling mum so much. Do not grit teeth, tighten the temples, act as if you are taking it lightly and then cope with it afterwards by forgetting that criticism (the “Head Flying Off” or “Wall In” imaginatory coping mechanism). Instead, breathe freely, admit that you have the problem and tell yourself (not out loud) this fact: “In truth, this does not matter.” It is a feeling of melting into warm water, where hurt is absent and it’s easy to believe in goodwill.

Do not make comments that will be contradicted for sure. Do not express real anxieties in the hope of getting consolation. Do not express fake anxieties lest you get ahead of your own lies. Do not express anything.